They give life meaning and color, make us ourselves. Clinical psychologist Michel Lyazhuyo studied how best to identify and arouse our true desires. He came up with five exercises for you: having completed them, you will learn more about yourself and what you want exactly.
Seniority, not a life, a holiday passed by. This is the formula that could express the lack of desires. It is no coincidence that the psychoanalysis puts a desire into the center of our existence, because it is it that transforms a faceless life into a unique path. Freud believed that “a person who achieves success is one who manages to transform his fantasies about desires into reality,” he writes in the book “On Psychoanalysis. Five lectures. Methods and technique of psychoanalysis “.
According to Michel Lyazhuyo, “the lack of a strong desire makes us vulnerable to existential emptiness and misunderstanding of ourselves. It is desires that give the meaning of our life. “. But it is not always easy to determine what exactly makes us tremble from desire. That’s why, to help us awake him, the psychologist chose a roundabout path.
“A whim, whim, aspiration. No need to miss a single nuance, ”he explains. – Learning them, we again gain or support our enthusiasm. “. It is about identifying good desires, those that correspond to our values and aspirations;which, being realized, give the meaning to our existence and reinforce our identity. It is for this purpose that we offer you exercises that will help to light fire in us.
I imagine that I won the lottery
When we imagine that we have a fortune, it immediately reveals access to us to a sleeping or depressed desire, helping to realize that we have more desires than we think and accept this.
“The wins in the lottery is a good reason to free the hidden desires,” Michel Lyujuyo believes, “he allows us to look at his hopes and his expectations with a new look”.
How to start
- On a sheet of paper, write in a row everything that you would do if you had financial capabilities for this. Then emphasize with different colors material desires and intangible desires and needs (time, relationship, classes).
- Determine the most urgent, most important desires for you. Having discarded those that directly depend on your well -being (your own house, thoroughbred horses), decipher the desires that express fundamental needs for you: for example, to allocate more time for yourself, get rid of everyday routine, surrender to calling, free yourself from obligations or relations.
- Think about how to implement them gradually in everyday life, starting with your main, most important need.
- And finally, re -read the records and try to determine what dominant unconscious desire is expressed in them: the desire to protect (hide in the shelter, feel safe), the desire to make an escape (get away from a difficult relationship or boring lifestyle), a desire to take a revenge (in personalor social plan). The main desire shows us what we can work on from within, regardless of whether we are rich or not.
I study what books and films I have
Re -meet yourself, find or again arouse hidden desires. Each collection of books or films is a way to keep your desires, memories and plans for the future.
Our library or video is told about us. Our books and our films can also allow us to find desires and aspirations again. “All of them talk about one thing: about the classes, ideals or personal qualities that we cannot stop thinking about,” says Michelle Lyazhuuyo. What are you from you?
How to start
- Like a detective, inspect your film on or library. Find repeated or prevailing topics: imaginary world (science fiction, poetry), travels, action -packed thrillers, love, psychology, philosophy, spirituality.
- Ask questions. What books or authors (films or directors) give you pleasure among those that make up your main topic? Why? What they bring to you? How you use (or not) this interest in your life?
- Answer these questions, this will allow you to draw a map of your desires, personal aspirations, or rather determine your motivation.
To start thinking, Michel Lyazhuyo compiled a small
dictionary of meanings for your books.
“Each category reflects one of the possible faces of our“ I, ”he clarifies.
